谷歌、脸书、特斯拉都实行导师制,这7个标准帮你判别你的导师是否足够优秀

导师在我们的个人生活、社会生活和职业发展中扮演着至关重要的角色。从谷歌(Google)、 Facebook到世界银行(WorldBank)和特斯拉(Tesla) ,许多公司都在启动导师制项目,高级员工帮助指导更多初级员工。导师指导并不新鲜,它已经存在了很长时间。但究竟什么是一个真正的导师,他们到底是做什么的呢?为什么国际学生需要寻找导师呢?
 
建立一种结构关系:
我一直在厚仁为许多11岁至27岁的国际学生提供导师指导。与每个学生建立正式的关系是必不可少的。我相信每周或每两个星期在特定的地点和时间见面(面对面或虚拟)对于指导之旅是至关重要的。作为一名导师,我也尽早的就建立了这种关系的目标,以便于学生能理解他或她的期望和责任是什么。
 
鼓励学生,而不是当保姆:
作为一名导师,我的主要职责之一就是鼓励、激励和支持我的学生。然而,帮助并不等于保姆式的照顾。我定期分享我的经验、知识和专业知识。但归根结底,还是取决于学生将这些知识应用到他们自己的经验中。作为一个导师,我不会经常纠正学生的错误或者阻止他们去面对失败。我们的总体目标是贯彻学习的理念,并且不断进步。
 
拥有大局意识:
一旦我的学生透露了他们在某一特定时期内想要取得的目标,我通常会通过提供建议来定义大局,告诉他们需要付出什么样的努力才能实现既定目标。我经常分享关于如何处理特定情况的方法,或如何面对错误,来帮助学生明白这一点。这意味着我对学生到达目标所要采取的措施进行了诚实且肯定的评估。
 
寻找可靠的榜样:
我经常告诉我的学生在学校里和实习单位中寻找更多的导师,以及那些从事其他专业、个人和社会行为的值得效仿的人。许多成功人士发现自己不知不觉中担任了导师的角色,因为进入这个行业的年轻专业人士会告诉成功人士他们对自己职业生涯产生的影响。
 
保持积极的态度:
整个旅程会面对许多困难、挫折和许多挣扎。在过程中,我提醒学生们,积极的态度和观点会帮助他们克服自我怀疑,会鼓励他们不因任何挑战而气馁。我帮助我的学生理解困难、挫折和错误不是一成不变的。我们还会继续犯错,将来也还会遇到各种各样的障碍。我的目标是帮助我的学生找到克服错误的方法,并培养一种更好的心态来面对失败和成功。
提出建设性的批评:
作为一名导师,我不可避免的会向学生提出建设性的批评。反馈对学生的个人和职业发展至关重要,哪怕不总是正面的。也就是说,我相信提出积极的批评是必不可少的,这在我职责范围内是最有可能促进学生个人的成长。老实说,这是导师和学员关系中最重要的一点。
 
重视不同的意见:
我相信一个好的导师,会懂得尊重学生的意见。即使是那些拥有成功的、长期的个人关系和职业关系的人,也往往持相反的观点。然而,优秀的导师会认识到,不同的意见将促进对话,从而促成更有成效的解决办法或成果。认识到资历并不总能保证最好的想法或处理问题的方法,是导师可以从学生身上学到的一课。
 
综上,拥有优秀的导师是学生学习过程中必不可少的组成部分。请记住,导师不是老板或主管,他们也不是朋友。寻求合适的导师关系对于国际学生的职业发展是非常宝贵的旅程。导师关系是一种独特的关系,它建立在信任、动力、信心和真诚的基础上。
英语原文:
Find a Good Mentor
Mentors play a vital role in our personal, social, and professional development. From Google and Facebook to the WorldBank and Tesla, many companies are beginning mentorship programs where senior employees help guide more junior employees. Mentoring is not new; it has been around for ages. But what indeed creates a mentor, and what exactly do they do? And why international students need to find mentors?
It is about building a structured relationship:
I have been providing mentorship for many international students as young as 11 and as old as 27 at Wholeren. Creating a formal relationship with each student is essential and necessary. I believe meeting (face to face or virtually) at a specific place and time each week or two weeks is crucial in the mentorship journey. As a mentor, I also establish the objectives of the relationship early on, so the student understands what his or her expectations and obligations should be.  
It’s about encouraging students, not babysitting: 
One of my primary roles as a mentor is to encourage, inspire, and support my students. However, helping is not the same as babysitting them. I regularly share my experience, knowledge, and expertise. That being said, it is up to the student to implement this knowledge to their own experiences. As a mentor, I do not often correct the students’ errors or stop them from facing failures. The overall purpose is to promote the concepts of learning and moving forward.  
It’s all about the BIG picture:
Once my students reveal wherever they wish to be in a given period, I typically define the big picture by offering suggestions as to what efforts will be necessary to make intended goals a reality. I frequently do this by sharing how they can handle a situation or mistake they have made. It means that I provide an honest and sometimes firm assessment of what it is going to take for the student to get there. 
Look for Solid Role Models:
I often tell my students to look for additional mentors in school and their internships and those who engage in professional, personal, and social action that others should wish to emulate. Many successful people find themselves as mentors because a younger professional entering the industry informs them of their impact on their careers.
Mentorship is about positive attitude:
The entire journey will have difficulties, setbacks, and many struggles. During the journey, I remind our students a positive attitude and outlook can help them overcome self-doubt or offer encouragement not to be discouraged by any challenging situations. I help my students understand that difficulties, setbacks, and mistakes are not one and done. Mistakes will continue to be made; walls will be run into. My purpose is to help my students find ways to work through mistakes and develop a better mindset towards failure and success.  
Giving Constructive Criticism:
As a mentor, I will not refrain from offering constructive criticism to my students. Feedback, even if not always positive, is vital to the student’s personal and professional development. That said, I believe it is essential to provide criticism positively, which is most likely to foster the growth of the individual under my purview. And honestly is one of the most important of the mentor/mentee relationship.
Valuing different opinions:
I believe for a good mentor; it is vital to respect student’s views. Even those involved in the most successful and long-standing personal and professional relationships will often possess countering viewpoints. However, good mentors realize that differing opinions will foster dialogue that can precipitate the creation of more fruitful solutions or outcomes. Understanding that seniority doesn’t always guarantee the best ideas or approaches to situations is a beautiful lesson that mentors can learn from their students.  
Having good mentors is an essential part of the student’s journey. Keep in mind that a mentor is not a boss or supervisor, and they aren’t friends. Finding the right mentoring relationship can be an invaluable journey for the professional growth of international students. Mentorship is a unique relationship all of its own that is built based on trust, motivation, confidence, and honesty.